For A Minute There, I Lost Myself

Maybe it’s true that a goal never dies, but our execution of the goal gets lost in the minutiae of everyday life.  As we get closer to the start of a new year, it’s important for us to get reflective.  So I had the lyric above from Radiohead’s “Paranoid Android” stuck in my head, and it got me thinking.  How often do we just lose ourselves for a minute?  Those minutes are symbolic of time that we’ve lost…time that we could be pushing forward…time that we could focus on what’s important…time that we can’t get back.

Let’s take a piece of practical advice together…what if we just took 2 minutes out of every day to recalibrate ourselves on the purpose we’ve been called to perform?  Just 2 minutes on a consistent basis puts us in a much better position to not “lose ourselves”.

Don’t let the minutes turn to hours turn to days turn to decades.  Life has a way of lulling us to sleep unless we fight it.

I’ve lost a lot of minutes…but the best thing is life is a patient person’s game…I plan on coming out on top.  I know you can too.

-ABB

Here’s To The Dreamers

Why did we let go of our dreams?  The ones we had when our innocence was still part of our fabric.  The ones that defied the reality that we were sucked into as adults.  The ones that secretly we’d do anything to capture, but life keeps getting in the way.

What if we could have both?  Both the pursuit of the things that make our hearts sing…while still plunging toward the hustle and grind to make it happen.

There is a balance, and those who have found it are the lucky ones.  But we can learn to find it too.  It’s not that far out of reach.

I’m working on a dream, which means that the hard work I’m sacrificing is worth it because I have a destination in mind.  I’m not living the dream yet, but every step is meticulously in the direction to make the dream a reality.  The motivation I need to wake up in the morning, and put in the work is the vision in my head that I want to make come true.

The dream is the destination, and yet the journey towards the dream can be just as fulfilling, if you’ll allow yourself to appreciate the path towards the dream.

Please don’t let go of your dreams…for us, it’s what drives us to that next goal.  It’s doing the work that others aren’t willing to do.  It’s our separator.

A toast to the dreamers…let’s go get it!

-ABB
 

4 Points Plus - Mindset

4 Mindsets to Start Your Day

Every day is a gift, and we need to all prime ourselves every morning to intentionally make the day a positive experience.  To that end, here are 4 mindsets that I like to remind myself at the beginning of each day.

1. Gratitude: there is nothing more important than this mindset.  Nothing will direct your focus towards success more than being grateful, no matter the circumstance.  You find the light in every situation.  The difficult times turn into learning opportunities.  I would even recommend a gratitude journal to force yourself to write these things down.  You can be grateful…it just takes determination to do so.


2. Encouragement: make the conscious decision every day to encourage others.  This might start with encouraging yourself, honestly.  You can find the positive and negative in every person and every situation.  Start to choose the positive and encourage yourself / others, and just see what happens.  I bet you’ll like it…


3. Presence: this might be the mindset that is most challenging for me.  Learning to be present in every moment is really tough, especially with the amount of distractions our world presents.  But your presence around others is powerful…your presence of your surroundings makes you observant…your presence with yourself makes you a stronger leader.  Make it a priority to be present in every situation today.


4. Hustle: this one is a little cliché, but it’s important.  Your ideas and good intentions don’t mean anything unless you’re willing to put your head down and work for it.  The biggest separator between the haves and the have-nots is the degree with which you’re willing to hustle.  Someone will be willing to put in the work to make it happen…will it be you?

Hope these 4 points help kick-start your day…God Bless!

-ABB

Life Begins at 40

Hit a big marker in my life yesterday.  The BIG 4-0.  But I've never been more excited about a birthday year than I am right now.  And I've actually been looking forward to it for a couple of years.  In the way we look forward to Jan 1...a fresh start, a new lease on life.  

I started realizing a couple of years ago that I've been coasting through most of my life.  I've made a lot of mistakes, and I have a lot of regrets (just like all of us do).  But the most encouraging part of the journey is the realization that I can choose to live differently.  

I can choose to put in the work so that I can have the life that others just dream about.  I can choose to eat diffently, think differently, love differently, work differently, engage differently.  The outside world is out of my control.  What happens to me or the people I care about is out of my control.  But from 40 on, the things that are in my control I'm going to treat differently.  

Every day is a gift...the choice is whether you'll give each day the intentionality it deserves.  Add a bunch of intentional days together and what you have is a culmination of life's great work.   

Life begins at 40 for me...it may be 20, 30, 70, 90, 13 for you.  It's just a decision.  But we all need markers to chart our progress.  Find yours as soon as you can. 

 

God Bless, 

ABB

Walt Sells Snow White

As leaders, the ability to tell and sell the story of your organization to your team and to your clients is critical to success.  Every week, we’ll take a glimpse at a great leadership story, and learn how to apply it to our own lives.  

We’ll often remember a story more than we will a principle.  My goal is to give you something you can take with you.  Below is an amazing story from one of my all-time heroes: Walt Disney.

 

 

The following is taken from PBS’s documentary, “Walt Disney: The Triumph of American Imagination.”

 

One winter night in 1934, Walt Disney gave a group of his staff 50 cents each and told them to get dinner across the street before returning to meet him at the Disney soundstage.

When they arrived, they found Disney standing alone in the spotlight on a dark stage. For the next several hours, they watched in awe as he acted out the story of "Snow White" — the Grimm brothers' fairy tale that they would, he announced, be turning into a full-length animated feature film. In an effort to show his team exactly what would transpire on the screen, he channeled the voice and emotions of each character, from the wicked queen to the seven dwarves.

Disney and his staff had spent the last few years working on "Silly Symphonies," a series of animated short films that earned him a reputation as the man who turned animation into a fine art. But as the documentary notes, Disney was itching for another adventure — and he managed to persuade his team that they were ready, too.

"We were just carried away," one animator recalled of Disney's solo performance. "I would have climbed a mountain full of wildcats to do everything I could to make 'Snow White.'"

 

...When Walt gave his personal performance of Snow White for his animators, he showed them his passion for the project.  In those moments, Walt’s staff was able to see through his eyes, and only then did they learn to carry the same drive and initiative toward the project that it would entail.  

 

No one in animation had attempted such a feat.  It would take grit and determination beyond what the animators had ever done before.  But they were convinced they had to do it that evening when Walt told the story.  

 

The passion that you tell your story with your team will determine their buy-in.  Give your team something to believe in...something to be a part of...something to belong to.  It makes all the difference in the world.

 

 

God Bless,


-AB3

I'm Through With Complaining

Please bear with me for a moment.  I've spent entire too much energy and wasted moments over the last few years complaining about things that are either out of my control or don't matter very much.  

The truth about our complaints....no one really wants to hear them!  No one cares!!  Then why do we do it?  What sick, twisted satisfaction do we get out of telling other people the most mundane and trivial complaints about our every day lives??  "Man, that traffic"..."the weather is ridiculous"..."can't catch a break"...and so on and so on and so on.  And that's the easy stuff we complain about...some of us are walking billboards for the downtrodden. 

While I know all of us have real life problems that are not all sunny and positivity, and I'm not making light of people that really struggle with depression and incredibly challenging situations.  

But, there are so many circumstances that we need to just readjust, and make one little shift in our perspective.  We could do it right now, and we could do it together...ready?  Ok, here it is:

I CHOOSE NOT TO COMPLAIN!

There, that felt good.  That was easy.  Not today...not tomorrow...and then we go from there.

Once we remove complaining from our vocabulary, a shift starts to happen in the direction of gratitude.  And that's when we start to see real growth.  

Life is too short...God is too good.

-ABB

 

Find the Benefit

I may not know much about you, but I’m pretty sure you’re looking for a breakthrough in some part of your life.

It may be in your career / finances / relationships / health...or any combination of these or other factors...but we need some chips to fall into place.

I want to present to you a perspective that I think will help, whether your breakthrough comes or not. That perspective is called benefit. Your circumstances will never happen the way you want them to. Life will always find a way to kick you in the rear. We live in a broken world...what else should we expect. But one key to finding an inner peace that we’re all looking for is to find the benefit. Every situation viewed through the lens of “this is working for my benefit” will change everything!

When things go your way, it’s easy to tell ourselves, “this is working for my benefit.”

But when things don’t go your way (and most of the time, they don’t), we still should be telling ourselves, “this is working for my benefit.” There is a lesson in everything, you just have to be looking for it to understand it.

Just remember, you’ll never be successful if you’re blaming others (this includes God). Find the benefit...find the lesson...and then you’ll discover the truth.

This is why Romans 8:28 is so powerful...Paul tells us, “And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.”

All things...

Didn’t say all things were good...but that God works them for our good.

You have a purpose...and He’s working them out toward that purpose if you’ll just trust Him.

Find the benefit. Change your story...change your life!

­ABB

Doing Something for the Sake of Doing Something

 

Writers have to write…

Creators need to create…

Engineers have to design…

 

It’s all in our DNA.  It’s all been given to us.  

Whatever it is that you do and you do well...just do that.  And do it consistently and do it forever.  

Why are we so obsessed with retirement, and looking forward to doing nothing?  To me, that sounds awful.  I want to learn and teach for the rest of my life!  

This is our journey...this is our calling.  I love to read about the people that break the mold and start something.  And you know what’s really fascinating about these people?  We read about them because they did something!  You know who we never read about?  The millions of people who never chased their dreams.  

All things considered, I haven’t accomplished much to this point in my life.  But the good news is...I’m still here.  So as long as I have breath in my lungs, God’s not done with me yet.  And he’s not done with you either.  

Whatever it is you do that makes you who you are, start doing that.  And do that every day for the rest of your life.  And the accumulation of the stuff that you do might change the world.  Not doing it will surely leave this place the same way you found it.

 

Rant is over...thanks for participating.

 


-ABB

 

 

 

Why XYZ?

I changed my website URL yesterday.  It was time.

 

 

But what started out as a convenience decision turned into something significant...and it really began to resonate with me.

 

You can now visit my site at alexbarrett.xyz ...I thought it sounded cool.  It’s easy to remember.  After all, if Alphapet (Google) moved their site (most clever one of all time: abc.xyz) over, I could too!

 

I thought I was just changing the address.  I think I was changing the way I wanted to look at my life.

 

XYZ…

 

I’m turning another year older today.  The closer I get to 40 the more I start to think about legacy.  Every day is another opportunity to write my story in a way that others might actually be interested in it after I’m gone.

 

Will I leave this world a better place because I was here?  

 

I feel like my life story is just beginning.  I’ve just been performing dress rehearsals up to this point.  The next chapter begins, and it’s the XYZ of my life that I want to impact.

 

XYZ…

 

I’ve always been pretty good at ideation / starting new projects / the front end / the launch.  And I’ve always been a proponent of leveraging your strengths.  But I want to do better at finishing well, too.

 

I’m an ABC guy...but I want to start with the mindset of the finish.  I can take the first step...I need to focus on the next step...so that my final step is on the mountain top.

 

I think you need both.  The faith to start, and the faith to complete.  

 

XYZ…

 

Legacy matters.  Tomorrow will eventually be today.  The ABCs are ready to go, and I just want to keep pushing them to the XYZs.  I hope you’ll join me.  I want us to get there together!

 

 

God Bless,

 

-ABB(XYZ)

 

4 Reasons to Just Start

I've been diving into John Maxwell's book Intentional Living, and so far I can just tell that this might be his greatest and most important book he's ever written.  It really is the kind of book that can change your life if you adhere to the principles.  It's more than leadership advice and practicality...it's a life plan of significance.  

The section I'm reflecting on right now is focused on the start.  So many of us are crippled with the execution of the first step that we never attempt that dream that's in our hearts.  Well, I've been that person for way too long, and I don't want to carry this regret any further.  I want to see God move on our behalf.  I want to be a part of lives changed from death to life.  I want to help leaders grow leaders.  There is a mission in your heart, it's time to start!  Here are some thoughts from Maxwell:

1. Start Where You Are

-We trick ourselves by looking at our current situation in comparison with the dream that's in our heart.  The goal is too big, because look at what we have to work with...but the truth is there is always a small beginning.  I heard a great quote that states we overestimate what we can do in the short term, but greatly underestimate what we can do over a lifetime of faithfulness.  You have to start small...and that's just fine.

2. Start With Your One Thing

-Maxwell states that everyone has one thing that they're just better at than everyone else.  The key is discovering what that one thing is.  Once you find the intersection of that one thing with your passion, you become unstoppable once you start.  If you're having difficulty with purpose and meaning, start with the place where your talent and passion collide.

3. Start Watching Your Words

-I completely agree with this philosophy that our words shape our future.  What you think about yourself, but also speak about your situation has a dramatic impact on your success.  Start speaking words of life and encouragement over not only yourself, but others as well.  A positive outlook in every situation will always serve you well, and making a decision to commit to this shift will put your goals and dreams set in the right direction.

4. Start by Making Small Changes

-What are the small steps you can implement today to make the "start" happen?  You have a long term goal in mind...so what are the several short-term wins that will put you on the trajectory towards that goal?  The key is small improvements every day.  You're not where you want to be...I know, me neither!  But let's focus on being better today than we were yesterday.  Consistent small improvements are vital.  

 

I really hope you'll make the decision to start working toward your dreams, if you haven't already.  The world is full of people who are harnessing regret in their purposes, often because they were afraid just to start.  Make it easy on yourself...start small...but start today.

God Bless,

-ABB